Katie July 17, 2012, 9:42 am
We agree to you… i dunno. Its difficult. I recently know personally i couldnt just let the lady glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. We have done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply anyone I will be.
Like i stated, i wouldnt walk out my option to make an effort to speak with her, but if she sets the record right using the gf, hopefully she’s going to turn her focus through the LW being a problem towards the man being the matter, that is what’s going on.
Katie July 17, 2012, 9:50 am
As well as, just exactly exactly what would you want to bet that he’s feeding their brand new gf your whole “crazy ex” routine to describe why they talk all of the time? And was operating into one another really and truly just a coincidence?
Nadine 17, 2012, 9:52 am july
I’m able to understand why you’ll believe that means, it isnt nice never to be liked, but I see the letter as being in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, perhaps maybe not the ex-BF present relationship. Thats just a complicator. The LW can simply get a handle on her very own actions, and ignore the ex-BF calling and annoying that is being. New GF to his relationship is none of her company, and honestly, the 2 girls need not be buddies after all. It can you need to be an additional connect to the guy for the LW, that is wanting to cut ties that are emotional.
Katie July 17, 2012, 9:54 am
Thats a great point for sure!
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am
Oh and god, we hate the crazy ex routine – I familiar with be buddies with this particular number of dudes whom once had such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy in it after two weeks and I’d get actually astonished, cos they seemed so normal in my experience? Then we realised it ended up beingn’t the girls, its the people. Therefore the girls had been all people that are just normal, you understand, wished to understand if that they had a boyfriend or not…….
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:04 am
Yea. Its like, as soon as that occurs enough times- what’s the denominator that is common? YOU MIGHT BE!!
I do feel harmful to this new GF. She deserves to possess a guy’s attention that is full. And she deserves a man who isnt hung through to his ex, calling her and telling her he nevertheless longs for her and material. Thats messed up! And she most likely hates the LW considering that the man is telling her a couple of crap about her. Its just all incorrect. The whole thing.
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:09 am
Personally I think bad on her behalf too, but she has to be aware of herself. Its difficult being the very first gf after a long relationship, but that is why many people go into these with their eyes spacious. Oh and the man has to“ stop droppingBut I have a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. We keep imagining him carrying it out the means the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, maybe you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”
Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:25 am july
Yeah that “but I have girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW understands which he features a GF, he could be simply shopping for a response each time he claims it. He desires the LW become like “well I don’t care I will still blow you” or “Dump that skank, and come back to me” if you have a GF,
Katie 17, 2012, 10:27 am july
Yea, its like whenever i was in senior high school and me personally and my boyfriend would split up every single other week, and he would “accidently” we would fight and get back together text me or something just so.
Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 2:45 pm july
@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight and acquire right straight back together”
Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 10:05 am
I’ve said right right here a whole lot, if the man whips out of the word that is“crazy operate one other means. I understand therefore men that are many utilize that word to hide because of their dickish behavior.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am
I don’t understand why individuals would phone some body crazy within the place that is first. I simply state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and then leave it at that. The actual fact which you place a “crazy” gay spiritual singles label about it, makes me think you may well be the one which loves to stir the muck.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am
Additionally, if you should be happy to phone somebody crazy, wouldn’t which means that you will be kinda crazy too?
Rilooyah 17, 2012, 4:44 pm july
Therefore real! When the” that is“crazy down, Im operating one other method. I believe it had been stated above- once you attract the crazy, the denominator that is common always YOU, friend.
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:21 am
To be honest, that it really is partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he’s in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this occurred to her she most likely will be upset about any of it too, and yet she continues to respond to this dudes calls despite the fact that he keeps stating that he could be dreaming about her, and all sorts of of the bull shit.
Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 10:26 am
Yep! We completely agree. LW, simply stop responding to. Don’t talk to the woman because your simply planning to cause drama. You must just recognize he’s maybe maybe not your boyfriend and also you nevertheless like their attention, the fact you understand he’s a gf is causing you to a negative man in this too.
Katie 17, 2012, 10:35 am july
This is certainly a great point, you guys. I didnt think about it like this.
So LW, if you truly do respect their relationship and wish them happyness, keep them alone!! Like eljay (I adore you, eljay) said, somebody needs to function as the adult in this example. If he’s maybe not prepared to be, you should do it.
Painted_lady July 17, 2012, 2:17 pm
Amen bestie – we accept you about talking to your gf. That knows exactly what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their speaking so often, but although the relationship is none of the business, the truth that the LW together with girlfriend that is new met now i do believe enables the LW some leeway. If I had held it’s place in a scenario where a buddy brought someone around that I’d heard of and wished to be friends with (I’m planning to assume that the LW desires that? ) and it went horribly, i may touch base and get, hey, I’m therefore sorry that went poorly. She does not necessarily need certainly to state, “Hey, which means that your boyfriend was saying that is___ in my opinion and he’s the main one calling, in which he explained you’re fine with this specific, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went poorly, I became beneath the impression you’re fine with this being buddies, but i simply discovered I’m maybe not ok with your being friends either, therefore it’s no problem anymore. ”
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:37 am july
I’dn’t keep in touch with the gf relating to this. If We had been dating some body for just two months the very last thing I would personally wish is the ex of three years reaching away to me personally. And simply to inform you which you respect her relationship? I might think you had been bullshitting me personally and head that is playing. Simply just simply Take Wendy’s advice and inform your ex you don’t desire to hear from him for a time, then keep them alone. Really they probably won’t work-out because you will be still within the image (which does not do great things for a fresh relationship), but allow them work that out themselves.
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:39 am july
Oh in addition, if we had been the brand new girlfriend and my bf and I also ran into their ex at a club I would personally additionally need that people leave straight away. It is therefore uncomfortable. Every person pretends they can be “mature” and stay buddies with exes and stay completely okay whenever your SO’s ex turns up, but why? You don’t have actually become okay with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of three years.
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:28 am